Getting Along with Each Other (3)

Getting Along with Each Other (3)

“You must get along with each other.” 1Co 1:10 TM

Getting along with each other requires more than compliance, it calls for

cooperation. So: (1) Validate the other person’ s feelings! Never try to talk someone out

of how they “ feel.” Listen without being defensive, and nod that you understand, even

when you don’ t agree. Feelings aren’ t always true or logical, but until they’ re validated

you won’ t get anywhere. David said, “ When my…feelings were hurt, I was…stupid” (Ps

73:21-22 GNT). We all act badly when we’ re hurt. But Solomon says, “ A man’ s wisdom

gives him patience; it is to his glory to overlook an offense” (Pr 19:11 NIV). When you

are willing to empathize with someone’ s feelings it says, “ I care about our relationship

more than our differences; you matter to me.” Sure, it’ s a sacrifice to patiently absorb

somebody’ s anger, especially when it’ s unfounded. But remember, that’ s what Jesus

does for you! (2) Confess your part. Jesus said, “ First get rid of the log in your own

eye; then you will see well enough to deal with the speck in your friend’ s eye” (Mt 7:5

NLT). Since we all have blind spots, get a friend to help you evaluate your attitudes and

actions before meeting with the other person. Ask God, “ Am I part of the problem? Am

I unrealistic, insensitive, or too sensitive?” Confession is a powerful tool! When you

can admit your own flaws, it defuses the other person’ s anger because they’ re expecting

you to be defensive. Don’ t make excuses or shift blame, just acknowledge your part.

You say, “ That’ s hard to do.” Sure, but God “ has given us this ministry of restoring

relationships” (2Co 5:18 GWT).

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