Getting Along with Each Other (4)

Getting Along with Each Other (4)

“You must get along with each other.” 1Co 1:10 TM

Here are two things you must do in order to mend a broken relationship: (1)

Attack the problem, not the person. You can’ t fix the problem if you’ re obsessed with

fixing the blame. The Bible says: “ A gentle response defuses anger, but a sharp tongue

kindles a temper-fire” (Pr 15:1 TM). In resolving any conflict, how you say it is as

important as what you say. If you say it offensively, you’ ll be received defensively. “ A

wise, mature person is known for his understanding. The more pleasant his words, the

more persuasive he is” (Pr 16:21 GNT). Nagging doesn’ t work. You’ re never persuasive

when you’ re abrasive! Don’ t use words that are condemning, belittling, comparing,

labeling, insulting, condescending or sarcastic. “ Use…only helpful words…so that

what you say will do good to those who hear you” (Eph 4:29 GNT). (2) Focus on

your relationship, not your differences. It’ s unrealistic to expect everybody to agree

about everything. But when we focus on the relationship, the problem often loses its

significance, diminishes, or becomes irrelevant. Often we can reestablish the relationship

even though we’ re unable to resolve our differences. We’ ll always have honest

disagreements, but surely, by God’ s grace, we can disagree without being disagreeable.

We can walk arm-in-arm without seeing eye-to-eye. This doesn’ t mean giving up on

finding a solution. You may need to continue discussing it—but now you agree to do it in

the spirit of love. Reconciliation means burying the hatchet, not necessarily the issue. So

who do you need to contact? With whom do you need to restore fellowship? Pick up the

phone and begin the process.

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